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CHAPTER SEVEN Sie Bower was a member of the family with whom we had been friendly in Suffolk. Her brother Robert was the Master of the Newmarket and Thurloe Hounds who was “quite the best dancer there” at my first public ball at the Atheneum in Bury St. Edmunds in January 1908. Sie used to visit us frequently at Grey Rigg. She had something of a reputation as a fortune-teller and used to read our hands. On each occasion, I solemnly recorded her prognostications in my diary and it is interesting to see how often she was right. 1908. August 10th—Sie Bower left. She told my hand yesterday. My character I knew without being told but she says I shall be in a motor smash in about 2 years. Marry (a soldier p'raps) in about 3. Go out to India in about 6 and have 3 babies. We will see if she knows. Two years later she read my hand again: 1910. September 25th—Sie tells us all our fortunes. Mine is not a nice one ... I am still to have a bad accident which she told me of 2 years ago. I shall go on being a mollusc as I have always been for two more years and then wake up and be a person. Sie was staying with my mother when my first letter arrived from the Arcadian. “Olave will mention in her letter the man she is going to marry,” she said. I did not, fortunately, suffer the motor smash but everything else she foretold came true-my marrying “the Boy Scout man” who was a soldier, my going to India, the number of my children—but most of all her prediction about “waking up and being a person”. I had been withdrawing more and more into myself this last year. I remember arriving at a friend's house for tennis and seeing a number of cars and carriages outside. I was filled with panic. “It's going to be a big party — I can't face it,” I said to myself- and went home. In such a state of diffidence, I probably should not have minded if the Arcadian trip had fallen through. It very nearly did. The Baker sisters (one of whom had been a bridesmaid at Auriol's wedding) had booked for the cruise and urged us to join them. When my father applied for tickets, however, the passenger list was already closed. We only obtained berths at the last moment when two people had to cancel their booking. We drove from Grey Rigg to Southampton to join the ship. It was bitterly cold. Passengers were stamping about on the quayside waiting for a tender to take them out to the Arcadian which, on account of a dock strike, was anchored out in deep water. A raw fog added to the gloom of the winter morning. A little group of the still novel Boy Scouts were drawn up to await the arrival of the boat train from London. With their bare knees and rolled up shirt-sleeves, they should have been blue with cold in such conditions but they were bubbling over with excitement. As the train drew in, they sprang smartly to attention. “There's B.-P.,” someone said and I watched, amused and interested, as the hero of Mafeking inspected the Scout Guard of Honour. Two days later I was introduced to him: 1912. January 5th . . . supremely happy sitting lazily loafing on deck all day. Make friends with Daisy Goodwin-daughter of Albert Goodwin the painter. Also Lieut.-General Sir Robert Baden-Powell “The Boy Scout” who is so nice. He talks so nicely about Mafeking and all his interesting experiences and is so modest and sweet ... Ripping day. There had been no difficulty over that first conversation. The General seemed to recognise me. “You live in London.” he said. “No,” I replied. “In Dorset.” He looked puzzled. He had obviously been so certain that he knew me. “But you have a spaniel,” he insisted. “A brown and white spaniel.” It was my turn to be surprised. “Yes,” I said. “And you have been in London? Near Knightsbridge Barracks?” “Indeed, yes—two years ago.” That satisfied him. He told me how he used to try to read people's character from their manner of walking—he had included a passage on this subject in Scouting for Boys. At the very time, during the winter of 1909-1910, when our family were at Rutland Gate, he was at his mother's house at 32, Prince's Gate. I would walk daily with Doogy II in Hyde Park and he, hurrying one morning from his home to the Barracks, had noticed what he chose to call my “quick, determined gait” indicative of “honesty of purpose and common sense as well as a spirit of adventure!” It was an amazing coincidence that we should meet in this way. It was an even more amazing coincidence that we should have the same birthday—22nd February. That evening we were both at the Captain's Table for dinner. My father and B.-P. soon discovered a mutual interest in painting and talked eagerly together of water-colour techniques. They were almost of an age-B.-P. was only three years younger than my father—yet already to me he was not just another parent—contemporary. How can I describe the instant recognition the one by the other of the perfect, the only complement in love? It was indeed a “marriage of true minds”, a meeting with the compleat partner such as is granted to only a privileged few. Ours was a rare love, a rare happiness. I thank God daily for the wonderful way in which His Divine Hand led us both to come together. I still cannot imagine what it was about me that attracted him. He was famous, talented, experienced. I was such an ordinary person, not at all clever, with no experience of life whatsoever. Yet within five days I was writing: Have B.-P. to myself all day-till 11 p.m.—much intelligent conversation on religion etc.—sitting aft watching the phosphorous balls of light whilst other people dance ... Do sports—and win potato race—in intervals between sitting with B.-P. on the top deck-Yes, I'm up against it! . . . Up before dawn again just to see him and kiss him. It was necessary to be circumspect. Shipboard romances are notorious and it would not have done for a distinguished General of fifty-five and the founder of Scouting which in five years had exploded into a world-wide Movement, to be caught flirting with a girl of twenty-three. That is how other people might have viewed our relationship. I do not think anyone ever realised how deep and passionate was our love for each other-not even after we were married. Many, many years before, when he was serving in West Africa, B.-P. used to chaff his officers about their excitement when letters arrived from their wives in England. “Just you wait,” one of them warned him. “You'll get it badly one of these days.” Now that day had come. We were helplessly, deliciously, ecstatically in love with one another—yet no one must know. Hence the stolen kisses before dawn. Hence the secret little notes that were “posted” in a cleat of one of the lifeboats. Hence the elaborate subterfuge of his going forward on the ship after dinner and my going aft, and meeting secretly at a pre-arranged point on the boat-deck. I had to endure the attentions of a Major D. who was returning to a colonial appointment in Bogota. He looked like a sheep and was quite keen on me I had to dance with him politely but noted in my diary: “. . . the beloved Scout is always there. He gives me a photo album and sketches ... I adore him.” The long, hot, lazy days passed all too quickly. We cruised along the coast of Venezuela, past the string of small islands that fringe the coast: Santa Margarita, Curacao. Flying fishes kept pace with the ship as it moved through the dark-blue glassy sea. We called at Porto Colombia and Colon. Everywhere there were excited Boy Scouts to meet him. We went to watch the Panama Canal being constructed. I did comment in my diary on the building work at the Gathun Lock but for the most part I viewed all the new sights through a haze of love. Even my first sight of the Pacific at Panama rates no more than a passing reference. Our time together was rapidly coming to an end. B.-P. had come on the cruise for a rest before embarking on an arduous tour of the States. He was continuing on the Arcadian as far as New York, then returning to England from the west coast of the States via Japan, New Zealand, Australia and South Africa. He would be away until August. Father and I were to disembark from the Arcadian to spend two or three weeks in Jamaica, returning to England in the Tagus in the second week of February. Fortunately for us, the weather for the long trip from Colon to Kingston, Jamaica was stormy. We could count on being alone on deck. January 23rd. Tuesday-Sail at 2-out to sea and she pitches like anything but oh! I'm so happy all day with him-He sketches away and I talk and we laugh together-even when we try to be serious the imp of mirth sets in. We feel and think alike about everything ... Perfect bliss. He gave me a Scout “Thanks Badge” in the form of a swastika with the Scout fleur-de-lys superimposed. The right-handed broken cross or swastika (so-called from the Sanskrit word for “well-being” was an ancient sign of good fortune that had appeared in many civilisations even as far back as the Bronze Age. Later, when the Nazis adopted the left-handed broken cross as their symbol and it became synonymous with evil and oppression, the Scout Movement abandoned the use of the swastika as a Thanks Badge, but in 1912 it was still a symbol of good. I was touched that he should give me this token of thanks and I wore it on a fine gold chain around my neck-but underneath my dress! Even if he could have produced a ring in mid-ocean, we felt it was not right at that moment to become engaged. We did speak—half jokingly, half in earnest—of asking Captain Custance of the Arcadian to marry us, for we were wildly in love and dreading the separation that lay ahead. But we both knew in our hearts that it was not the right thing to do. There were too many people who might be hurt by a hasty marriage. So we had to be content with an “understanding” that some day, somehow, despite the difference in our ages, despite his comparative poverty and my wealth, despite his loyalty to his mother and what I knew would be the opposition of my parents, we would come together. On January 26th, the Arcadian was to sail from Kingston for New York, taking my beloved Robin with her. The night before, my father and I moved our luggage from the ship up to the Myrtle Bank Hotel where we were to stay. After dinner, I strolled down towards the harbour. By “chance”, B.-P. strolled up from the harbour. We sat down together on a little bridge—a “dangletoes”, he called it. I cried and cried. I just could not bear the thought of being parted from him for so long. Next morning, I hurried down to the harbour to see him before the ship sailed. Unbeknown to me, he had hurried up to Myrtle Bank with the same purpose. We missed each other by minutes so that when he did eventually find me at the ship, there was no time left to talk and, anyway, there were people around. So all we could do was shake hands and say “Good-bye.” I had no one with whom I could share my feelings. My father, with his usual aloofness, had noticed nothing and, in any case, Robin and I had agreed to keep our “understanding” a secret until he had finished his world tour and could consider ways and means of making our marriage possible. Meantime, he filled my thoughts by day and my dreams by night. I went through the motions of taking an interest in Jamaica but my mind was with Robin in the Arcadian. I found the “funny little social circle” of Jamaica constricting—meeting the same limited group of people at every house we visited-but to drive home at night after a tennis party “along the dark bumpy road lit by fireflies” would bring thoughts of my darling crowding into my mind. “Ah Robin-you are always there.” Within ten days, a bundle of letters had arrived from him, posted from New York. He must have sat down in his cabin the moment he went on board.
R.M.S.P.
Arcadian It is much worse than I had expected, to be on board and no b.e. to be found. It is exactly the feeling I had when my two mates had been killed in Matabeleland-one kept looking round expecting to see them as usual at the camp fire-whereas, they were dead. I rouse up from my work -(for I am working all I know) look around and the stitches suddenly tighten as I remember there is no little friend on board ... Like all his letters on this tour, it was signed not with my name for him, Robin, but with a little sketch of a robin. Oh, those enchanting little drawings! “No letters from you yet . . . and the robin's mouth is turned down at the corners, its tail droops. “A bundle of your letters awaited me . . . a perky robin with its tail up.“Please send some more. . . a hungry robin with its beak open. “I must show you my scrapbooks of this trip ... an eager robin with a big book under each wing.” In this first letter from the Arcadian, as in many of his later ones, Robin addresses me as “b.e.”. This, very unromantically, stands for “bulgy-eyes” for he said he loved the way the surrounds of my eyes bulged when I laughed. The reference to “stitches” alludes to one of those private codes that all lovers have—in this case that his heart was “stitched tightly” to mine so that when he felt a great upsurge of love in his heart, it made the stitches pull tighter. On February 9th, my father and I boarded the Tagus for our return voyage to England. Imagine my surprise and delight to be greeted by gifts and-more important-a bundle of letters written aboard the Arcadian as Robin steamed northwards from Jamaica to New York. On arriving there, he had sought out the Tagus (having ascertained that that was our return vessel) and had bribed the steward to ensure that the letters were delivered-and privately-to me. . . . The more I think of it, the more marvellous it seems—I mean the coincidences which happened with us-our birthday for instance; and the band playing Faust music, and then our time (at Myrtle Bank; my having seen you walking with your dog; and then all the little points which we have in common. Just wonderful. Please don't marry Major D. right away, will you? ... He tried to comfort what he knew would be my distress at our long separation
He wrote playful, tender letters, addressing me as “little mouse” because, as he said, a mouse is “a little beast that keeps gnawing”.
As the Arcadian steamed further north and the weather became cooler, the cold light of reason enters his letters: Last Day on board. 30 Jan.
I did “post a line” at Colon (for the Tagus made the same calls in reverse as the Arcadian). Once again I viewed the Panama Canal, Porto Colombia, Cartagena through a rosy glow of happiness. At no time in my life has my diary recorded so vividly the colour of the various places I have seen on my travels. We visited the Pearl Island of Santa Margarita, called at Port of Spain: “Out at sea. Hot and happy-and I drift and dream in the sun and Robin is in them all-such jolly dreams of where we shall live an d what we shall do - together.” I had a telegram from him on our birthday, February 22nd, but then had to possess my soul in patience until I reached England before I could receive any further word from him. “1912. March 3. Sunday. Cold ... wet ... so I think of and write to Robin. It is just awful to think I shan't see him till August. . .” We arrived back in England on March 6th but I had to wait until April 1st for Robin's first letters from America to reach me.
We always had a wonderful affinity for each other. At the very time that he was writing that letter, I was confiding to my diary:
Our “understanding” was supposed to be a secret but if my diary for these months is anything to go by, everyone who met me must have realised I was in love. Day after day, I poured out my heart in ecstasy and as each batch of letters arrived, I was inspired to even further transports. April l0th is a typical entry:
In one of those letters he wrote:
Nine days later a further batch of letters arrived. I was thrilled to receive them “but they aren't nearly as nice as the last”, I noted with concern. What had gone wrong? Was our “great love” all in my imagination? I could not believe I was mistaken. We had only known each other for three weeks before we had to separate but they had been such wonderful weeks. Surely he was not having second thoughts already. I waited in agonising uncertainty until his next letter arrived. I read it with mounting dismay. I cannot quote the letter for in my distress I tore it up, but I can still remember as if it were yesterday what it said. His mother had written (he informed me) to tell him that his brother, Frank (who up to that time had been Mrs. Powell's principal supporter) had fallen ill and was unable to make so generous an allowance as hitherto. Would Robin please increase his allowance to his mother and to his sister Agnes. “I am old and I am poor; I have nothing to give you,” he wrote to me in despair. “By the time I have paid my mother's allowance, I shall scarcely be able to keep a dog. If only my dream could have come true!” He went on to offer me my freedom. It would not be fair to expect me to live in penury. The poor darling-it was typical of him to think of my happiness first. I dashed off a reply by the first post. Of course he was not to worry, I assured him. I had enough for both of us. We would manage somehow. Our dream must come true. Then I had to wait -a long, long wait while my letter chased him round the world and his reply came slowly back by sea.
There is much more in the same vein and much in deep despair; then at last on July 21st: “Oh Joy again! All is well and what a glorious world it is and how happy I am! A dear stitchy letter and at last he has written to Dad.” My secret—if it still was a secret—was out at last. I could discuss Robin freely with my family and friends. The relief was exquisite. Now that he was beyond the “half-way” mark of his world tour, his letters arrived with increasing frequency—humorous letters, tender letters, descriptive letters, lover's letters.
Ten days later he wrote from Government House, Adelaide:
(the tour) ... is all an enjoyable adventure, but through
it all I keep looking on to something that you could not guess in a month
of Sundays. It is so silly and so petty and childish that I know you'll
despise me for it—whisper— Govt. House Adelaide. 24 June.
During the long voyage from Australia to South Africa, he must have written to me several times each day-sometimes thinking on paper, sometimes reminiscing, sometimes breaking into nonsense verses
and so on for verse after verse. On August 14th I received a letter which told me that the photograph I had sent to Africa “to fetch Robin home” had indeed arrived.
And the letter is signed with a positively euphoric robin drawing! Eager though he was now to return home, Robin loved his stay in South Africa. It had meant so much to him throughout his career.
How the artist in him showed in his letters!
Such a contrast to what those scarred old rocks had seen and heard.
I received this letter on August 17th. Only a week to wait now: “My heart beats time to these passing seconds-passing quickly at last. . .” Surely he would come straight to me at Lilliput when he landed at Southampton on August 24th. But he didn't! CONTENTS
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